Aloha! This is the week five, it’s been a really challenging week, but I’ve been steady in making small amounts of progress and keeping up with my priorities and new habits through great effort, my mind has been in a fog.
Pono & Mind:
🗹 Be the change you want to see happen instead of trying to change anyone else. -Arleen Lorance “Started dancing to “Endless Love” and “Just the Two of Us” with my kids, it’s really fun, one of the very few things we all enjoy.”
🗹 Create your own reality consciously. -Arleen Lorance “I started going to the homeschool kids play meet up at the park and it’s really awesome to put myself around people that make me feel like homeschool is fesable and have ideas about alternative teaching methods. Now that most people I know do homeschool I don’t feel like it’s weird and I have to defend it anymore. I didn’t even realise that I was holding those views until I let them go.”
🗹 See problems as opportunities. -Arleen Lorance “I did do that this week, I was super tired and started counting how many times my kids woke me up at night the next day. It was 12 times. Four from the baby, eight from my toddler having nightmeres… so, the next day I accepted that I was low energy and was proud of myself for even doing simple stuff like keeping up with dishes, childcare and school time instead of being upset I didn’t do extra cleaning and gardening. Also in other ways I was able to do this a lot more this week.”
🗹 Have no expectations, but rather, abundant expectancy. -Arleen Lorance “I did have the expectancy that we could find someway to keep the dogs from excaping and attacking the neighboor’s dogs, I didn’t know how, I didn’t expect anyone in particular to buy gates, but I did ask my husband and he said yes and my father also bought other gates, so soon we should have both an indoor and outdoor solution set up for a problem that’s been going on for over a year.”
🗹 Read books. Do puzzles. Brainstorming. Drawing, painting, and/or sculpting. -Demitri Martin “Did simple jigsaw puzzles with my daughter, finished a digital drawing for my emotional diversity serries, read a little bit of “Only Love Today” and “The Whole Brained Child.”
🗹 Gratitude Challenge – Consistent gratitude for 30 days. -Nomz “I wrote a post about how hard it’s been to be grateful, called “The Challenge of Gratitude,” I’ve been trying my best to be grateful most of the day and it’s hard to explain, it hasn’t felt like a light switch turned on, it has been more like a dimmer switch turned up or instead of a dirty tile scrubed clean, a dirty tile scrubed in a way that has less residue, yet isn’t clean yet.”
Mālama & Body:
🗹 Eat better. -Demitri Martin “My daughter made poi in school, it was the best tasting poi I’ve ever had.”
🗹 Exercise. -Demitri Martin “I did T25 total body circuit and abs.”
Aloha & Relationships:
🗹 Respectful Parenting – The philosopher Immanuel Kant said that rational human beings should be treated as an end in themselves and not as a means to something else. The fact that we are human has value in itself. If a person is an end-in-themself it means their inherent value doesn’t depend on anything else – it doesn’t depend on whether the person is enjoying their life, or making other people’s lives better. We exist, so we have value. “I’m starting with respectful parenting, but after the class is over I plan to expand slowly towards the rest of my social connections, my birth family, my husband, my friends, everyone I meet, people I don’t know… I’ve been able to speak just a little bit more respectfully to my family this week, not really where I want to be, but I’ve had two proud moments.”
🗹 Did you let people help you/provide others with opportunities to give? -Arleen Lorance “I accepted an extra chicken I didn’t need, but could use, it made my dad really happy. Even though we can afford chicken, getting gifts from the school really makes my father and my daughter happy, much more than if we just bought the same things.”
🗹 Did you receive all people/someone as beautiful exactly as they are? -Arleen Lorance “I’m accepted all the people I met exactly as they were, but I didn’t have to deal with any child abusers or anything tough.”
☐ Did you help a friend/stranger? Uplift those around you? Do something nice for someone? -Demitri Martin “I thought about helping a neighboor who wanted a ride to the mailbox, but it just didn’t work out logisticly this week.”
🗹 Practice Confidence: Be forthright and proactive in your life. -Demitri Martin Boldly Celebrate Yourself – Nomz I started taking my hat off inside, even though my hair is messed up by wearing the hat (the left side points down and right sticks up) and I started using a sunflower emoji here and there as a reminder of Nomz’s post to celebrate yourself.
🗹 Walk Away: From anger, ego, people who put you down, fear, the past. -Dr. Jurisharma “Walked away from anger many times, not 100%, but many times this week.”
🗹 Connect with Loved Ones: Look Up – Rachel Stafford. Just look up from the phone/computer/chore ext at the eyes of the person talking to you.
☐ Connect with Loved Ones: Look In – Rachel Stafford. Try to look inside to how someone else could be feeling.
🗹 Lōkahi: To communicate and illuminate healing and more importantly, to reunite that which has been broken back into unity, and awareness—in short, to renew… – Dr. Maka’ala Yates “Helped my sister and dad talk about repairing the drier and putting a dog gate up without fighting.”
🗹 Aloha ʻĀina: Clearing out a slug infestation, setting up herb bed for cooking, building grow beds for root vegitables.
Kuleana & Career/Personal Management:
🗹 Did you set weekly goals? -Demitri Martin “Yes, here.”
🗹 Did you take daily steps toward achieving those goals? -Demitri Martin “Yes, it’s not everything everyday, but it’s many things everyday.”
☐ Money: Keep careful track of your income and expenses. -Demitri Martin “I didn’t keep careful track, keep better track, but not careful track still.”
🗹 Errands: Do your cleaning, marketing, and pay your bills on time. -Demitri Martin “So glad my marketing is no marketing.”
18 Points of 22 Points = 81% for the last week of September. I’m doing most of what I say I want to be doing, but somethings feels off still. I enjoy the system having so much diversity of goals from the origional Demitri Martin system, yet I need to totally think it through and align it with my own values at some point in the future when I have more time. Maybe when I get back to California at the end of the month.